Is your best friend the right person for you? They might be. We’ll look at 10 signs you might be dating your bestfriend and not even know it.
Do people always ask you and your best friend if you’re a couple, whether they’re strangers, friends, or family? This might be funny the first few times, but it can get annoying fast if you have to constantly dodge questions about your relationship status and comments about what a “cute couple” you are. But do you ever wonder if your family understands something you don’t?
If the idea of dating your best friend makes you squeal like a child, “Yuck!” or “She’s got fleas!” Then you probably haven’t been thinking about love, and for good reason. There are bad things that can happen when you date your best friend, but there are also some really hot things that can happen when you fall in love with your best friend.
Signs you’re already with your best friend
So, have you gone beyond being best friends and started dating? We’re going to look at 10 signs that you might be dating your best friend and not even know it.
#1: Your friends have already given you a name.
Don’t friends know best? Sometimes, our friends figure things out before us. For example, do you always have to explain to your friends why you’re “so not a couple” with a long list of reasons? Or do your friends assume that if they invite one of you to a party or event, the other one will come too?
If your friends are already putting you two together or can’t say your name without mentioning your “other half,” you might want to rethink your “we’re just friends” attitude.
#2: You don’t need words anymore.
Now, you and your best friend are so in sync that you could have a whole conversation just by using your bodies. At a party, does someone bother you? You can make fun of this person in secret with your best friend by just giving them a look. Feeling really down when you’re with other people? Your best friend already knows, and help is coming. Yes, when you get along well with someone, you can talk to them without words. You’re just that familiar with each other.
#3: They are always your plus one.
Got a wedding, party, baby shower, housewarming, or Haley’s graduation invitation? Your plus one is already set, no matter what the event is or how well you know the host. Whew! So you don’t have to worry about that anymore. Why try to find a date at all? I mean, it’s clear that you’re going with your best friend. Duh.
#4: You have changed into the green-eyed monster.
If your best friend makes plans without you or makes a new friend and you go crazy with jealousy, you might want to think about what you’re mad about. Is it because of the plans, or because your best friend wants to hang out with someone else? No matter what, there’s a reason you’re jealous, and you should probably figure out what it is before you start looking like a crazy person.
#5 You talk all day long.
We mean the whole day. You send each other “good morning” texts, call or text throughout the day to talk about work and that guy with bad breath you were stuck in the elevator with, and end the day with a “goodnight” call or text. This isn’t just a group of close friends.
#6: When you fight, it feels like you’re breaking up.
Things have definitely turned romantic if you and your best friend have had a fight that felt more like a breakup. We all have intense fights with friends from time to time, but if this fight gives you knots in your stomach, makes you cry, or ends with a “getting back together”-like reunion, you may be closer to being a couple than you think.
#7: You give and take.
And we really mean it. Does he tell you about the newest video game, his weird problems with his mom, or the hair he found in his soup? Do you tell him about the problems with your friends, family, or coworkers, the new value palettes from Sephora, and how much your period cramps hurt? Oversharing in a comfortable way is a sure sign that things are getting serious.
Do you tell your best friend things that you wouldn’t tell anyone else? If so, it’s probably because they’re awesome and wouldn’t tell anyone your deep, dark, and embarrassing secrets. Nope, there wasn’t even a tweet about it! You trust your best friend completely, which is a great trait for any budding romance.
#8 Plans are assumed.
You know how they say you’re never really single if you have a best friend? At this point, you don’t even make other plans on the weekend. When it comes to you and your bestie, plans are solid and do not have to be discussed. You spend every weekend with each other.
#9: You needed a new label.
At some point, “friend” just didn’t seem right anymore, so you became “best” friends (BFFS, Biffles, Besties, etc.), but that doesn’t seem to do justice to how special your friendship is. When you’re together, all you talk about is how close you are. Well, maybe not all the time, but it does come up, okay?
*You’re no longer best friends; you’ve grown into something else for each other. You try to cover it up with cute nicknames and ironically call each other your “life partner,” but we all know you really mean it. How to ask a friend out without putting the relationship at risk.
#10 Best friends and lovers.
Okay, so you and your best friend could have almost all of these signs. But think about this: many psychotherapists and regular people agree that your romantic partner should also be your best friend. What’s stopping you from pursuing what could be a magical relationship with your best friend if you’re totally attracted to them?
We’re not saying for sure that you love your best friend; we’re just giving you a strong hint. Using these ten signs as a guide, why not take a chance on your best friend and admit that you’d make the best couple ever?
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