Kind people don’t always come in last. Most of the time, they don’t care if they come first or last because they care more about others than they do about themselves. That’s because they are nice guys who know how to act. However, sometimes, there are things good men do that females misinterpret as flirting, causing confusion and misunderstandings.
I know it’s hard to believe that some nice, good guys are out there. No, not everyone in the group lives in the south. They are all over!
Just because a person is courteous to you doesn’t indicate he wants to sleep with you, I feel it’s important to stress. I mean, he might, but it’s important to remember that there are good guys out there who were raised right and know how to treat people.
Seven Ways to Tell He’s Just Being Nice and Not Flirting
Check out all the ways that nice guys still confuse girls by just being nice and gentlemanly in everything they do.
1. Kind people holding doors open for you.
This may come as a surprise, but just because you and a guy share the same air does not mean that he is flirting with you. Just because you’re walking into the same entrance as the guy in front of you on your way to work, and he stops, gestures for you to go ahead of him, and holds the door for you does not mean he likes you.
He is, however, just a normal person with a lot of good common sense. People, it’s called having manners. Go get some. He’s just a guy holding a door for you, and if you turned around to see him doing it, you’d probably find that he was still doing it for the next ten people, including other women. Who would have thought!
2. Nice guys with smiles.
We’re all familiar with how people’s faces look when they’re just relaxing. But did you know that people can smile, that it’s much easier to smile than frown, and that it’s probably even easier than walking around with a grumpy face? Just because a guy smiles at you doesn’t mean he wants to date you.
It just means that he’s probably a happy little guy who isn’t afraid to share his happiness and is a really nice person. Stop being so vain and thinking that a guy wants you just because he smiles at you.
3. Nice guys getting you drinks.
Most people probably think that a guy who buys you a drink just wants to get you home. This is true, even though it might be hard to understand. Some guys will buy you a drink even if you don’t know them. They just have good manners and a kind heart.
Think about the Starbucks drive-thru video where random strangers paid for other random strangers. It’s a kind thing to do, and when you do nice things for other people, it makes you feel good about yourself, too. Who wouldn’t want to be in a place that makes them feel good?
So, remember that just because a guy buys you a drink, whether it’s alcohol or not, it doesn’t mean he’s trying to hit on you or flirt with you. It just means that he is offering to buy you a drink. Now, you’ll know if he’s flirting with you if he asks you to join him at his table or offers to keep you company.
4. Nice guys are giving you praise.
Have any of your girlfriends ever told you that your hair looked great or that they liked the shoes you were wearing? Yes, you have, of course. Unless your friend is a lesbian, she wasn’t complimenting you because she wanted to get in your pants. She might have wanted to borrow them but not wear them.
Guys can compliment you just like girls can, and that doesn’t mean they’re trying to flirt with you. Why wouldn’t you want a kind-hearted guy to tell you he likes your shirt, hair, or whatever else he wants to compliment?
Take it, enjoy it, and bask in it. You could even sneak a selfie to remember how good you looked. But don’t let those nice things fool you. Just because he compliments you and pays attention to you doesn’t mean he’s flirting with you.
5. Nice guys letting you cut in lines.
If you’ve ever been in a long line at the post office or grocery store and the person in front of you offered to let you cut in, it’s a great feeling. It makes you feel like a winner, and you might be tempted to look twice at the guy who just let you cut in front of him.
It’s nice to be reminded that there are decent males in the world, even though such events are rare. Even though he let you sneak up on him, that doesn’t mean he likes you and wants to get in your pants.
He doesn’t know me! He doesn’t know you at all. Even if he wants to get to know you, he’ll start by talking to you while you’re waiting in line. If he just lets you cut in and doesn’t say anything else, he was just being nice.
6. Nice guys who offer you a seat.
When you’re on a crowded subway, train, or bus and a stranger taps you on the shoulder and gestures that you can take his seat and he’ll stand, that’s a very nice thing for him to do. When a guy offers you his seat, it shows that he was raised right and has good manners.
Even if a guy lets you sit down in his seat, that doesn’t mean he wants to do you. If an older woman got on at the same time, he probably would have done the same thing for her.
7. Nice guys who talk to you in a touchy-feely way.
If you know a guy who always touches you when he talks to you, it probably annoys you a little and makes you think he’s in love with you because why else would he always want to touch you? I don’t mean a creep who touches you inappropriately and makes you feel bad. I mean the guy who sometimes pinches your shoulder, touches your arm, or always hugs you when he sees you as a way to say hello.
Some people are very touchy-feely when they talk, just like some people always talk with their hands. This doesn’t mean he likes you or is trying to be friendly.
I know that in the world we live in, it’s easy to be cynical and not think there are still good people out there. And sometimes we can’t help but think that if a guy is nice to us, it’s clear that he only wants something from us.
Breaking news: It could mean that he is just one of the beautiful souls who wander around our universe. They are there to remind you that when random acts of kindness happen to you, you should have faith in people again.
Some bad people are out there, but that’s how life is. Some people are terrible and will only be nice to you when you do certain things. But there are also really nice people with good intentions in the world, and it’s important to always keep that in mind.
Martin Luther King Jr. said, “It’s always the right time to do the right thing.” Maybe the guy who is being nice to you knows that those words have never been more true.
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