Navigating difficult conversations you must have with your partner can often lead to a lot of fidgeting, sweating, hemming, and hawing during these awkward moments. While some people can get through it without getting hurt, most of us find ourselves traumatized by fear alone.
It’s like having to talk to an annoying family member at a family event, even though you can’t stand them. You just have to wait it out until you can get some air.
Why Awkward Conversations in Relationships Are Important
Most of the time, awkward conversations are awkward because the topic being talked about has some sort of stigma attached to it. If the two people talking about it had open minds, there would be no problem at all.
There are still some things that are still too sensitive to talk about. Even if you want to be open-minded about these things, you should still think about how the other person feels about them being brought up.
But once you’re done, you can breathe a sigh of relief because you and your partner have finally talked it out. Even if you don’t get the response you were hoping for, there’s something to be said for dealing with a problem instead of just ignoring it.
What are the most awkward conversations that couples usually have?
The talk about STDs.
Let’s get to the point and admit that this is probably the most awkward and unsettling topic. People don’t like to talk about how many partners they’ve had, especially if the number is something to worry about. Most couples don’t change their minds about how unlikely it is that they have an STD. No signs, no deal.
But that’s where terrible things can happen. A lot of STDs, like HIV, take a long time to show signs, and some, like Chlamydia in its early stages, show no signs at all. For some, being asked to get tested can be as bad as being asked to strip naked in public. All of it depends on how seriously they take what their partner says.
The chance of getting married.
When people talk about when they want to get married, it shouldn’t be awkward. For crying out loud, it’s going to be the best day of your life so far. Getting married, on the other hand, is a different story. Not all serious couples are open to the idea of getting married.
If you and your partner have never talked about it before, it can be very scary to finally bring it up, especially if you don’t know how they’ll react. A little hesitation at the word “marriage” has broken up a lot of relationships. You should be ready for anything because you might not get the answers you are looking for.
When a lie is found out.
One of the worst things you can do to your partner is lie. If you lie and get caught, especially if you lied about something important, you have shown that you can’t be trusted. Then doubt starts to creep in. About what else have you lied? Is this relationship a lie, too?
When you get a chance to say what you want to say, it will be very emotional. On the other hand, having to admit that you made a mistake is awkward. You have to explain why you lied and how you plan to fix the problem. There might also be asking for money.
Trying to get them to do something you know they won’t do.
Nothing is worse than asking for something and getting a no. You know there’s a small chance your partner will say yes, but you still have to ask because you won’t sleep if you don’t.
The problem is that conversations like these are set up to fail. Why? Because you know your partner well enough to know how they’ll react. Still, you need to check with them before buying something really important, like a dog or a sports car.
About a friend who is getting too close.
One of the hardest things to tell your partner is that someone close to them betrayed you—someone who wasn’t you. They trust the people in their lives who were there before you in a different way, so it will be hard for them to believe that someone they know tried to hit on you.
Besides that, they will just have to deal with it. They can’t just forget about it and must accept that they might lose someone important to them because of it. It’s more than just a strange conversation. It is also going to be very sad.
Letting them know when family members are getting in the way too much.
Another problem is when people in the same family get too close. When a couple is having trouble, some families think it’s okay to give their two cents or even the whole family fortune. Even when everything is fine, some family members will still tell you how you can and should improve your relationship.
Knowing that they might become your family one day can be upsetting. When the problem is serious, it can make things hard between you and your partner and their family.
Telling your partner something you forgot to tell them.
How do you think your partner will react when your friend starts telling you and your partner a story about something you forgot to mention, like dating a certain person in the past or doing a lot of ecstasy in college?
We don’t think they’d like it, but some people are more open-minded than others. The problem is how and if you will stick to your version of the story.
Accidentally getting pregnant.
Many people think that getting pregnant is a blessing, but the first time it happens can be scary for some. Having kids is a big responsibility; most couples aren’t ready for it. When you do everything right but still get pregnant, that’s a different story.
It’s important to tell your partner, but it can also be scary. Both of you didn’t expect this to happen so soon, so it’s hard to say how either of you will react. Aside from that, you’re left wondering if you forgot to take a pill or if you let the condoms in your handy box go bad.
Bringing up your ex-partners.
Oh, the awful talk about an ex. You don’t have to talk about everyone you’ve dated, but your partner will want to know about the important ones. Aside from that, you probably also want to know about their ex-girlfriends and boyfriends.
At the start of a relationship, it’s not important to talk about the past because it doesn’t matter at this point. It’s all about how you and your partner work together. You’ll have to talk about things like this when the time comes. If you don’t, you’ll end up having a very awkward conversation that you could have avoided in the first place.
Having to end things.
Why does it have to be hard to break up? Some people have to do it, don’t they? Even so, it can be awkward if one of you isn’t ready for it. There must be trouble in paradise. If one of you refuses to admit that, any conversation you have from then on will be awkward since neither of you wants to stay together.
If you get past that point, you and your partner can rest easy knowing that a big problem has been recognized. You can talk about whether or not you want to keep dating, but at least you’ve taken the first step toward letting go of the pain and finding your true happiness.
Some awkward conversations about relationships can be serious, but sometimes they’re just about silly things. They all share one thing: no one wants to have them.
If you know what to expect in an awkward conversation, it can help you a lot. When you know what to expect, some conversations will feel less strange. So, you and your partner can be ready for any truth bombs you’re about to drop on them. Remember that an awkward conversation with someone only lasts as long as you have something to say.
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