Do’s And Don’ts During The Early Stage Of A Relationship
I have vivid memories of the first few months of dating. Constantly checking my phone and pestering my pals with inquiries have led to a lot of sleepless nights, a rapid loss of weight, and a tense state of mind.
The early phases of dating were, in my opinion, a joyous period… or not!
These “do they like me/don’t they” days are full of lovely memories, but I think they’re similar to delivery *not that I’ve ever had children*. When you look back on it, it’s amazing, but it’s a nightmare at the moment.
It may appear to be a place of peace and tranquility, but it isn’t. Doubt about one’s abilities and a compulsion to look at one’s online presence are draining. There is absolutely no way I’d pay you to relive those early phases of dating with me!
There are those who thrive on the adrenaline rush. As in a good pursuit, you set your goals, go after them, and then enjoy the highs and lows of the chase until you make the decision to stick with your current partner or find someone new. There’s nothing worse, in my opinion, but hey, to each his or her own!
DO’s in every relationship.
I made a list of dos and don’ts to guide you through the unsure seas of dating in the beginning stages. Hope I can help you get through this difficult period in a better way!
1. Keeping oneself occupied is the best way to avoid boredom. Suddenly being fascinated with monitoring their social media page, “accidentally” ending up where they’ve tagged themselves in, and talking about them continuously is easy, but you must be yourself!!
Do the things you regularly do, such as working, schooling, socializing, hobbies, and exercising, to keep yourself occupied. There’s a good probability they’ll start running themselves instead of asking why you aren’t following them.
2. Your social media accounts should be a place of happiness, not negativity. At this stage, it’s highly likely that you and your mate are both monitoring each other’s social media accounts frequently. In that scenario, keep it upbeat and light-hearted.
Nobody likes a steady barrage of deep and significant phrases, heartbreaking words of love, and a sour mood. People are likely to run a mile from this. Make sure you tag yourself in some fun locations with your pals, and keep it light and positive!
3. Make time for your loved ones. Because of your new relationship, you should never neglect your old pals. This is a “do and don’t” situation. Putting a bad spin on it isn’t my intention, but what if it all goes wrong? You can’t go it alone!
In order to maintain regular contact with your friends, make sure you follow through on any promises you make. If you and a friend meet every Tuesday for Wine Tuesdays, keep going!
4. Set a limit and stick to it. In order for a relationship to be successful, you must establish your limits early on. In the early stages of dating, don’t let someone trample all over your life just because you’re a little infatuated with them.
Don’t be afraid to express your displeasure if something isn’t important to you. That doesn’t mean sitting down on date number one and giving them a list of things you won’t put up with, but be open and honest about what you will and won’t tolerate. Newlyweds need to establish the following 12 relationship boundaries as soon as possible:
5. It’s time to have some fun! Keep in mind that the early days of your relationship will be the ones you cherish the most in the future. Don’t forget to show off your individuality while having those experiences. For whatever reason, you’re afraid of scaring them away, don’t say anything. Be yourself!
DONT’s in every relationship
1. Let go of everything. If you’ve found someone you’re completely smitten with from the start, it doesn’t mean you should give up everything else you enjoy in life. Even if the relationship doesn’t proceed, don’t lose yourself in it. You can keep your friends’ commitments while still making time for your hobbies. Make sure your spouse gets a piece of the action as well!
2. Semi-follow them. Honestly, it’s a bad look. It’s actually illegal in several areas! You don’t have to monitor their social media activity, but you should be aware of their whereabouts. A healthy interest in a subject isn’t bad, right? When you turn into a stalker, the rules change completely.
3. Make an effort to know their friends. Keep in mind that while it may happen in time, you need to give your connection time to develop at this stage. Suffocation will set in if you start a relationship with their pals and make them your new besties. Ensure that they get the time and privacy they need.
4. Keep track of your appointments and activities on a daily basis. You’re not really in a committed relationship when you’re dating. That’s worth keeping in mind! Currently, you’re in the “wait and see” phase. In other words, don’t pencil in future vacations, weekend getaways, or other special events! Allow yourself to relinquish some of your power. Allow things to happen as they are meant to.
A needy person does not have a good first impression. In order to have a successful relationship, you need to go with the flow as much as possible. New couples make the same mistakes over and over again.
5. A label should be applied to it. Don’t call your beau anything resembling a boyfriend or girlfriend since, as I just said, you and your beau aren’t in a committed relationship yet. Lighten up. Don’t label them with a certain status. In the event that they do the same to you, you should not be upset either!
You need to wait and see what occurs at this point. A lot of individuals panic and run a mile when they’re suddenly given a title by someone they’re attracted to. Wait until the topic of conversation arises on its own.
Despite the chaos, make the most of this period.
I’m not going to sugarcoat or make it sound like rainbows and sunshine when it comes to the early stages of dating. They aren’t. They’re perplexing, bizarre, and rife with uncertainty, and they make you feel everything at lightning speed.
It doesn’t matter if I portray this time period in the greatest possible light at this point. I mean, unless you’re one of those folks that get a weird buzz out of it. It’s normal to hope that a new relationship will blossom into something more. Is it really that important? If so, then it’s not going to matter much if you don’t participate in this early stage.
It doesn’t matter if I portray this time period in the greatest possible light at this point. As long as you don’t overdo it, you’ll be fine.
Dating can seem like ripping off a Band-Aid from a particularly hairy area of your body in the early stages. Make memories, but never strive to be someone you’re not.