Every First Date Is a Success if You Do These Things Right
First dates can be nerve-wracking, frustrating, exhilarating, and all of the above. Here, therefore, are some pointers for making the most of your first encounter.
Weird things happen on first dates. Even when your relationship is with someone you’ve never met before, there are always expectations attached to it. When a first date doesn’t live up to our expectations, things can quickly spiral out of control.
So, how do you go about getting out on your first date?
Let’s talk about what a perfect first date means to you before diving into the details of how to pull it off. Everyone has a distinct idea of what an ideal first date should look like. While enjoying a cup of coffee, some folks prefer to have a quiet conversation. Others prefer to take a risk or go at it on the spur of the moment. So, the decision to play it safe or take a chance is yours.
Plan a date that you’ll like before you even go on your first date. Is it a wonderful first date, one where you laugh the entire time? Is there any dancing or flinging involved? It’s up to you whether you’re looking for something casual or something more serious.
When it comes to a first date, it’s best to have some concept of what you’re hoping to get out of the experience. Clearly, this is going to be an enjoyable first date.
How to have a successful first date.
Even before you arrive at your meeting location, be prepared for the unexpected. That’s all right. It’s not uncommon for disastrous first dates to turn out to be the finest ones. If you stick to these recommendations, you’ll be well on your way to a successful first date.
Stay true to who you are.
Everybody says this, but for some reason, no one truly follows through. As at a job interview, we put our best foot forward on a first date. Remember that this is not a practice session. This is a great opportunity to meet new people and have the opportunity to meet their friends. To have a better time with your date, whether it’s a long-term relationship or just casual fling, you need to be comfortable in your own skin.
Ensure that you are both speaking and listening at the same time. This is very relevant to me, someone who is constantly being chastised for talking too much. Often, you aren’t aware that you are talking excessively until after the fact. Make sure you have a few questions ready to ask your date to indicate that you’re interested. Also, refrain from responding with the first thing that comes to mind. You and your date should have some fun together.
Honesty is the best policy.
On our first date, we all hope to make a good first impression. It’s for this reason that we put on our best clothes, brush our hair, and check our teeth before the event. That said, you should avoid telling lies in an effort to enhance your public image as more interesting, successful, or hip. If you want to know if this person is truly interested in you, you have to open up about your flaws and everything, even the ones you’d rather keep hidden.
Look out for warning signs.
Some of us are just too finicky. Other people may ignore important details that we should be aware of. Don’t ignore it if your date refers to their ex as “crazy.” Taking responsibility for their actions may be a challenge for them. You shouldn’t dismiss it as a sexist joke if you’re bothered by it. On a first date, if this person lets these minor red flags emerge, it’s nearly a guarantee that they’ll get larger over time. As much as you should enjoy yourself, remember to keep your eye on the prize.
Don’t overindulge in alcoholic beverages.
Drinking excessively on a first date is all too common. You’ll feel more relaxed and at ease after having a drink. That is when things can easily go south if you are still on your third or fourth drink and haven’t eaten anything.
Avoid bringing up bad themes at any costs.
On a first date, I think it’s crucial to be honest and transparent. There’s no point in dragging this out much longer. If you’re interested in dating someone who shares your political views, bring it up throughout your conversation. Keep the conversation positive, however.
Get rid of most of your hopes and dreams.
If you’re expecting them to pay, agree with your beliefs, be a perfect fit, or be a dud, then your ideals are getting in the way of the actual date you’re going on. Don’t let yourself get bogged down in unreasonable and detailed expectations about a date.
Respect your own worth.
A first date kiss or sex session is not the issue here. As long as they’re on board, go ahead and do it. However, if this individual is berating you for your job, your accomplishments, your appearance, or anything else that makes you feel inferior, you should walk away from them.
Make the most of it.
On a first date, it’s easy to get distracted by all the things to worry about. Is your clothing appropriate? Do they share your core beliefs? Do they treat the waiter with respect? Allow yourself to have fun with the first thing instead of getting too caught up in the minutiae. You can have a nice time whether or not you’re a match.
Talk about what you love to do.
It doesn’t matter if there’s silence on your date or not; bringing up your interests and theirs can significantly pique interest and spark conversation. Discover their priorities and how you may aid them in exchange. When you hear someone talk about something they care deeply about, you get a sense of their character.
The truth will bring an end to the night.
Don’t tell them you’ll call in the morning if you don’t show up. Never say you want to see someone if you don’t want to. Don’t be afraid to leave it open if you aren’t sure.
No one needs to be led along. You’re on a first date, and it’s unlikely either of you is emotionally invested, so be honest with one other. Don’t go into too much detail about how much fun you had or how pleasant it was to meet them.