Some claim that humans rely on body language more than words when communicating. However, how does this translate into romantic discourse?
Throughout the courtship process, body language plays a significant role, from the initial meeting to the final goodbye kiss. While most of us recognize the significance of body language, few of us actually comprehend how it presents itself in our day-to-day behaviors because of how subtly it occurs.
The capacity to control one’s body language tends to completely disintegrate when we’re under the added pressure of a dating environment, especially on a first date. Mastery of body language is a skill that takes a long time to develop. However, the following list will provide you with a glimpse into some of the areas of the art that are most likely to yield amorous benefits and aid you on your journey.
Body language for the dating scene:
Instead of using cliches to pique your date’s interest or communicate your own, try going back to basics. You can utilize body language to your advantage in a handful of different ways.
1. The truth is hidden in the eyes.
Making and sustaining your date’s eye contact is the first step in body language and is crucial in keeping the sparks flying. Keeping the object of your affections’ gaze for an extended period of time is a surefire sign that they like what they see.
If you want to prevent making eye contact with someone who feels like a stare, you need to practice successfully returning their gaze but also occasionally flicking your eyes elsewhere.
You don’t have to use your fingers to point; alternative options exist. The feet are an important tool for this purpose. Stools are useful during meetings because they allow for a better perspective of the other person’s stance; if they are facing you squarely with their feet turned in, you know it’s time to get serious.
3. Start it up.
In this piece of advice, we’ll talk about how to position your body. As was mentioned in #2, if there is no interest in or a sense of threat toward the other person in the conversation, the body will point or direct itself away from that person. The body is indicating that it is prepared to flee quickly.
That’s why you should face the person you’re attempting to impress with your entire body. However, you shouldn’t worry too much if their physical appearance is a little asymmetrical. A person’s subconscious may need some time to get used to having a square shape superimposed on their body.
4. Happy hunting.
A charming person’s smile is one of their most effective weapons. It doesn’t matter how bad things have gone; a killer smile can make everything okay again. Having a gorgeous smile is a plus, but understanding when and where to flash it is crucial.
It’s ideal to flash a wide, lasting grin that shows off your teeth but not your gums. Just make sure your eyes are smiling alongside your mouth. This magic ingredient turns a regular grin into something truly delightful.
5. Tongue and groove.
Some body language movements are really subtle and hard to detect, while others can be downright explosive. You better hope your house is neat and tidy because you won’t be going home alone tonight if the woman you’re talking to is openly and lazily licking her lips while making full or near-full eye contact with you. Unless you’re a drag queen or cannibal, you can only do this as a woman.
6. Calm and collected.
You can tell a lot about how you feel by the rapidity with which you make any movements, but especially with your arms and hands. Making rapid, jerky movements gives off an impression of nervousness and lack of self-assurance, while moving slowly and occasionally gives off the opposite impression. Be relaxed and exhibit the kind of self-assurance that can win over people of any sex.
7. Lean machine.
It’s a good sign that the other person is interested in you if they lean in toward you ever so little when you’re talking. Because of the implied kissing potential, this is the most powerful of the directed body language indications.
If you want to do this on your date, make sure your slant is noticeable without being so extreme that your partner needs to constantly duck to avoid a headbutt.
8. Touching moments.
For the student of body language, a date who risks touching you lightly at any time, no matter how benign, is one of the greatest signals of attraction. If you want to try this move yourself, remember three things.
First, you should be sure that there have been further, convincing signals that warrant making such a bold step. Second, don’t just throw something in the middle of a conversation; find a natural pause and seize it. Third, be aware of where on their body you are touching. You can use your hand, arm, or even knee if necessary. But a head-on, two-pronged attack is the stuff of nightmares, not dreams.
9. Lip service.
It’s hard to master the art of the good night kiss. Where do you place your kisses—on the cheeks, the lips, or somewhere else entirely? Smoothly, quietly, and firmly carrying out this most challenging aspect of every date is the key to success. As the saying goes, he who hesitates is lost, and this is especially true.
Your ability to successfully close a date with the person you hope to make a lifelong commitment to depends on your body language observations as much as on any other aspect of your seduction routine. To pull off the romantic coup of the century, you must pay close attention to how your body communicates with the main flow of discussion.