NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS FOR THOSE WHO ARE SINGLE FOR LIFE
The new year can be the most lonely time for some people, although it is generally associated with joyous celebrations and family gatherings. At this time of year, being single may be a real drag because everyone around you appears to be in a relationship and is constantly bragging about it.
In order to make matters worse, you can bet your bottom dollar that all of your distant relatives, the ones you only see at Christmas and funerals, the ones whose kids are all happily married and have families of their own, will launch the most terrifying investigation into your private life.
They will see right through your lies about not looking for someone right now and being fine on your own, even if you tell them as much.
If you want to be in a happy relationship but can’t seem to make it happen?
This year, resolve to find and retain a spouse with these five helpful resolutions.
Finding and retaining a partner are the two most common problems people have while trying to locate the proper person to start a relationship with. As you can see from the accompanying list, these are two entirely different issues, so we’ve split them for our readers to choose which one they’re most concerned about – or perhaps both. Here, you’ll learn how to put your relationship resolutions into action and finally end your single status.
New Year’s resolutions for those with no one to share their life with.
- Decide to change your bad habits. Without pointing any fingers, there may be something in your past behavior that has put some people off you in the past. To recognize some of these, you may have already done so. If you can’t, you may need to speak openly with a buddy who can give the required amount of honesty.
Being too loud, drinking too much, being extremely opinionated, being crass, talking too much, or not listening enough are some behaviors that can turn off a possible spouse. With a bit of self-awareness and practice, it’s possible to overcome these habits that stem from a lack of self-confidence. Sit back and see how people’s perceptions of you gradually but visibly shift over time. If you follow through on this resolution, you’ll get plenty of grins and winks, if not a few numbers!
- Make a promise to yourself to change. However, unlike the first resolve, this one focuses on your lack of positive qualities rather than bad ones. It’s possible that your personality isn’t very flawed, but it’s also possible that it isn’t remarkable. Taking advantage of the upcoming New Year’s Eve is a great way to start again.
Make a promise to improve your body language and voice to appear more polished. Consider taking up a new pastime or interest to draw the attention of those around you. Make an effort to see the world to extend your horizons and give yourself an advantage when meeting new people who could be your life partner. Finding activities that make you stand out from the crowd is as easy as pie.
- Be determined to discover the perfect match. You need to focus on figuring out precisely what you want in a companion. If you can’t stand someone’s arrogance, for example, then becoming involved with the most self-centered person in the room merely because they’ll have you is not a suitable course of action, and it will not last – at least not happily.
Make a list of things you desire and don’t want in a potential spouse. Don’t go overboard with the specifics, but don’t make blanket statements. Instead, make a list of the things you absolutely must have in a relationship, as well as the things you must avoid, so that you have some direction.
- Be prepared to change your mind. Some people will only be content if they find a partner with model looks, a career in brain surgery, and an inheritance in the millions of dollars range. In the new year, resolve to have a more realistic outlook on finding a spouse and start examining persons you would generally dismiss as possibilities. You never know what you’ll discover!
- Become more conscientious about where you choose to spend your time. When the prince laments his inability to find the appropriate kind of female in bars and clubs in the early scenes of the film Coming to America, he also concedes that he has only gone so far in his search. The old barber Clarence responds, “You can’t go to no bar to get a good woman. The library and the church are two good sites to visit.” Is there anyone out there who remembers?
You’ll rarely find your ideal life partner while listening to unbearably loud music and being close to intoxicated. A club or library might be a better place to start your search for a job. Try internet dating, and before you scoff with scorn, ask yourself this one question: am I willing to risk anything?
For people who are unable to maintain a long-term relationship.
- Make a plan of action and stick to it. If you’re going out with someone, you have to approach it with caution and caution. Each stage involves a different amount of intimacy and an appropriate approach for the level of trust and familiarity that has been established. There are a plethora of guidelines available online that explain the steps and when they should be completed. To avoid confusion, be careful to read and follow all of the instructions. On the first date, no French kissing, but by the twentieth, you should be able to shake hands!
- Dedicate more time to listening. If you insist on airing your views at the expense of the mutual nature of normal discourse, be prepared to be sent out. When people aren’t listened to, they get fed up. You can learn more about another person’s ideas, as well as their motivations, by paying attention and showing respect for what they have to say.
- Keep yourself in check. The most typical error people make when meeting or dating someone they want to impress is telling all the most interesting tidbits of their lives in one focused blast. This isn’t the way to impress someone.
If you’re rehashing the same tales repeatedly, your audience will quickly become tired of you. Never risk more than you’re willing to lose, and always have a backup plan in case things don’t work out.
- Decide to keep the energy up. No one wants a lifeless, dreary relationship, and if that’s how things are going when you’re dating, it will not get any better. Propose something new to the person you’re dating all the time and watch the romance grow.
- Choose to commit. You must take the next step in your relationship if you’ve discovered the ideal person, had a successful date with them, and everything is going well. As a result, a lack of commitment on this front could lead to a breakup with your significant other. As long as you’re willing to commit more seriously, you’re unlikely to be kicked out of a relationship!
Singleness is never something anyone wants to endure for the rest of their lives, but if you make these commitments next year, you may celebrate Christmas with the person of your dreams next year instead of alone.