Because we don’t like the results, many of us refuse to accept things, especially when it comes to relationships. What we can’t have always appeals to us. Unfortunately, when it comes to our own personal relationships, we often fail to believe the “voice of reason” and the indicators that are constantly right in front of us. Or, perhaps, we’ve simply chosen not to notice them. Accept them or not. A combination of the two is likely.
Consequently, we disregard all of the indicators, even if they are signs so large that they are virtually waving in our faces, Then, where do we go from here? First comes denial, next comes acceptance of truth for what it is, and last comes closure.
Ironically, I met the man I married two years and nine months after seeing this movie in the theater with a guy I didn’t have any romantic ties to. What I just said is all that I took away from this film. There are other useful lessons to be learned from the film besides the main message it is aiming to convey.
1. Experience is and will always be the best teacher. Adam and Emma are shown in the opening scene. “People aren’t supposed to be together, forever,” Emma already says as she grows older. Despite the fact that Emma had only just begun to fully comprehend what it means to be in love at this point in time, she already has the knowledge to say those exact words. Possibly from Adam’s parents separating, but it could also have come from what she’s heard or seen in the world around her.
We must strive very hard to follow in the footsteps of those who came before us. We can gain a better perspective on our life if we learn from our mistakes and use what we’ve learned. However, this does not preclude us from adapting as our knowledge and skills expand. As Emma grew in her relationship with Adam, it became clear to her that she was capable of falling in love with a kind and generous man. And so she did.
2. Ask as many questions as you can think of. One of the things we learned from this film is that Emma is the one who is curious and daring. When Adam confessed his feelings for her, she immediately asked, “Why?” My identity is unknown to you.” And she has every right to do so, and so should everyone else who is reading this.
Inquiry is a beautiful thing. We should also be cautious when asking questions because the answers we expect may not be what we get.
3. Adam’s father tells Adam, “The worst thing you can do in life is to say no to love.” Even though Adam’s father ended up with his ex-girlfriend, Adam nevertheless heeded his father’s advice throughout the film. His father is correct, too.
It’s hard to say no when you’re in love and the person you’re looking at is equally in love with you. Either you two end up together or you don’t, that’s the only way this can go. Since a 50% probability isn’t all that horrible, why not take a chance?
4. In spite of the fact that this is a self-destructive plan, we’re fully behind you. After he discovered that his ex-girlfriend was sleeping with his father, Adam’s buddies advised him not to call every woman on his phone in an attempt to find someone to have revenge sex with.
Even if they realize it can be a little bad for us, our friends are always there to support us. Despite the fact that our friends are well aware of our eccentricities and may wish to discourage us, they also understand they have no power to stop us. They can only be there to provide us their best crying shoulder when our self-destruction comes to an end.
5. “Let’s make fun of the naked person,” you’d never want to hear. In the end, everyone says regrets are inevitable. In the scene where Adam wakes up in the company of strangers with a bad hangover, he was made fun of by the audience. In the end, he found himself living with Emma’s roommates, and they made fun of him.
We would like to avoid these kinds of situations as much as we can, but they do happen from time to time. When in doubt, don’t be the nude guy (or girl) in a room full of strangers, unable to recall where your clothing are or if you’ve had an intimate encounter in the room. At the very least, have a sense of humor about it if it does happen.
6. In this film, at least, post-coital balloons are truly adorable. Think back to the day when Adam dropped off a balloon at Emma’s hospital room with the words CONGRATS printed on it. and the reactions of his family and Emma’s friends, who thought Adam had gone too far. To some women, the thought of being remembered is a pleasant surprise.
Several males refused to contact the women they had sex with the night before, refusing to even give them their phone numbers. He should have made Emma fall in love with him with a gesture like this. However, because of her mental baggage, this was the catalyst for her departure. There are, however, many women who are not like Emma. Instead of texting her, aim for a gesture that tells her the sex she had last night was not in vain… Unless, of course, it is.
7. As always, clarifying the current status of a connection is a good idea. The sex-only relationship between Adam and Emma had already begun when Emma made the decision that the two should simply be sex buddies and friends for the time being.
Non-emotional relationships may not be able to avoid any pair from forming feelings, but defining a non-emotional relationship will not only make things easier, but it will also help you know what to do.
8. All of us know that having sex friends is a non-starter. There are many of us who have been. In the past, we’ve tried to just be sex buddies with someone. At first, we expect a quiet and non-emotional connection, but it turns out to be quite the opposite. It’s inevitable that people of opposite sex will be drawn to each other.
If you’re in a relationship like this and you’ve already formed an emotional attachment to one of the men, it’s best to end it right away because the other guy isn’t interested in you. However, if you both feel this way, why not take action and make your relationship something more?
9. As Adam asks, why aren’t more men like him? I mean, come on. You and your roommates could use a box of cupcakes. It’s becoming increasingly difficult to find men like Adam these days, so if you’re lucky enough to have found one, hold on to them tight.
10. All the time, effort and creativity are more important than sex. Our hearts were captivated by Adam’s gift of a bouquet of carrots, despite the fact that sex is all about intimacy and making each other comfortable enough to be naked, acknowledge it His goal for their first date was to make it memorable, so he devised a plan to avoid Emma’s rules. He even devised a well-planned schedule for their entire outing.
By a mile, Adam wins the award for the best movie date ever thanks to his charming antics. The card Emma handed Adam that read “You make my heart skip a beat,” or in layman’s terms, “You give my heart pre-ventricular contractions,” earned her some points.