Signs of a One-Night-Stand Date – Is it a good idea to sleep together on the first date? Find out the potential risks and rewards of this common dating scenario.
It doesn’t make you less of a person to sleep together on the first date, but is it a good idea? Why wait to find out if you have sexual chemistry with your partner? You’ll always have more time to get to know each other better, right?
Wrong. Some people will say that they slept with their date on the first date, but many others have had the humiliating experience of finding out that the person they thought would make a great boyfriend or girlfriend was actually a jerk.
When you don’t know the answer, it can hurt more than the thought of taking a chance and putting your heart at risk in a situation where you could win or lose. So, you should know what you’re getting yourself into. It doesn’t matter how much we think we’ve found the perfect partner because anything may happen in a relationship.
How Would You Describe a One-Night Stand?
Once you realize that the person you slept with “forgot” to call you, it’s pretty clear that it was just a one-night stand. The problem is that no one knows what a one-night stand is.
Is it a one-night stand if you’ve been talking to the person for months before you go out on a date? This is true for most sites and apps for online dating.
Is it a one-night stand if they still answer your messages but don’t make any plans to see you again?
Is it still a one-night stand if you still see the person at work, school, or one of your usual hangouts and you still say “hello”?
If you went on a few dates before you slept together, is that still a one-night stand?
Here’s the truth for those who aren’t sure: A one-night stand only happens once. You only sleep with one person. Then one of you will decide it’s not worth doing again. If it never happens again, that’s the end of it. We call it a “booty call” if the person calls you a few weeks later.
Both of these choices don’t sound good. One thing is that you might not have wanted a one-night stand. If the person calls too late, you might get hurt because all they want is a repeat of that one night.
How Can You Tell If Your Date Will Just Be for One Night?
One-night stands are bad because you never know if they will happen or not. Some people will say this straight out, but most will never admit it. You have to read the signs and decide if the other person wants to help you. These situations will help you figure out if a person is looking for a single good date or a long-term relationship.
1. Texts, emails, and chats can reveal a lot about a person.
Conversations that have already happened can give away a person’s plans. If you just met this person and they started talking about sex right away, it’s likely that they only want to sleep with you.
2. Where do they want to take you?
If this person asks you out for a drink instead of something more serious, like dinner, the movies, bowling, etc., it’s likely that they want you to relax enough to be ready for sex.
This is the most obvious scenario, but some dates can lead to the same thing, even if they start out at a coffee shop. Just know that when alcohol is the main focus, it’s hard to see how a relationship could work. Do not refuse a drink invitation if someone knocks on your door. People like and care about different things. The person might do it all the time, like going out for drinks.
3. If you met your partner while you were out.
There are a lot of bad things that could happen if you meet a stranger and sleep with them. One of these will only last one night. Even if you get drunk and sleep with someone you like, that doesn’t mean you’ll be together forever.
4. If you met at work, through friends you both know, or somewhere you both go often.
You can get the most out of this setting. When you know someone ahead of time, you can figure out how they do things. Your friends and coworkers will know whether the person is interested in a relationship.
When you’re out on a date…
The first date will give you the impression you need to decide if it will be a one-night stand or something more. How your night will end depends on what someone says, how they treat you or other people, and how they act.
1. Having a sex talk.
When your date talks about sex during dinner, you know they want to sleep with you afterward. People who bring up sexual activity immediately are likelier to have a one-night stand.
2. Not paying attention.
If the person you’re talking to is more interested in their phone, food, or coffee while you’re talking, it shows that they don’t want to get to know you better. You don’t deserve this, and you shouldn’t have to deal with it.
3. Self praise.
If someone keeps talking about themselves without letting you in on the conversation, it’s likely that they’re trying to look good to attract you. By leaving you out of the conversation, they are showing that they are trying to get something from you. This is not a good sign for a relationship.
4. Eyes that move.
If they keep admiring other people when they think you’re not looking, they probably won’t think twice about leaving you after you sleep together. If someone asked you out or asks you on a date and you said yes, they should behave, even if it’s just for show.
The date’s ending.
If they ask to go back to your place or theirs without building any trust, it’s a sure sign that all they want is sex. If you didn’t tell each other anything about yourselves, but you still decided to go home together, it would have to be a one-night stand.
1. How it went.
If your date is after 11pm or midnight (it used to be between 9pm and 10pm, but times have changed), the person who asked you out doesn’t want to hang out with you long enough for you to have fun. You will have to go to bed between 1 and 2 a.m.
2. The next morning…
Some people jump into the situation knowing that the person they’re with will act this way, but others don’t know the basics of what’s going on. Many people wonder if it’s their fault or if they’re just really, really unlucky. Those who decide to take a chance and see where the night goes can look for clear signs after the date.
3. In the middle of the night, they leave.
This doesn’t usually need an explanation, but people who leave right after having sex don’t want to do it again.
4. They don’t eat breakfast because they have to work on the weekend.
If they liked you, they wouldn’t have asked you out on a date when they knew you had to work.
5. Before they leave, they don’t kiss you.
You just shared a bed. If you have morning breath, does that mean you can’t kiss? You have an extra toothbrush because of this, right?
6. The way they move will show who they are.
When someone talks to you while their torso is facing the door or they don’t make eye contact, it means they are trying to get away from you.
7. Saying, “I’ll call you,” but not saying when.
This could mean that they don’t plan to do it. Still, there are some people who do call. Just don’t think it will happen soon.
Be open and honest with the person you’re seeing to avoid dates that turn into one-night stands. If that person isn’t being honest with you, at least these 16 tips will help you figure out if they want to be in a relationship or not.