etting Over Your Partner

8 Signs You’re Getting Over Your Partner

Losing someone is never an easy thing to experience, and there are eight signs you’re getting over your partner you’ll be able to identify with easily.

When you and your spouse first started dating, you were both full of energy and enthusiasm. When the euphoria wears off, you’re more likely to reflect on the past than look forward to what’s to come. Then you may be asking yourself, “Am I falling out of love?” The rose-colored glasses we’ve worn up until that moment start to fade away when we exit the honeymoon phase, and for the first time, we recognize our differences. 

It’s quite normal for this to happen. As time goes on, the negative outweighs the positive when we’re actually falling out of love.

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Falling out of love, as opposed to moving on from a relationship’s honeymoon stage, entails recognizing and not being able to get past the undesirable elements of the other person. The imperfections our partner has become “no longer perceived as possibilities for improvement but fundamental character flaws,” according to Dokun when we’ve fallen out of love.

Even if you think you’re losing interest in a person, it doesn’t necessarily signify disinterest in your relationship; it simply means that the intensity of your affections for them has waned. Despite your sorrow over your waning sentiments, you shouldn’t stay in a relationship that no longer fulfills you. Listen to your emotions and do what is best for you and your spouse, even if you don’t want to harm the other person.

If you’re unsure if you and your spouse are still in love, keep an eye out for these eight telltale indicators.

Getting Over Your Partner: 8 Undeniable signs

1. You’re Uninterested in Spending Time with Them.

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A lack of excitement about spending time with your spouse, despite being inseparable at the beginning of your relationship, can indicate that you’re losing interest in your partner. On the other side, it can be beneficial to give each other greater space. You should reevaluate your thoughts if you find yourself happily making arrangements with everyone else but dreading an approaching dinner date with your lover.

It’s not something to be ashamed about, but it’s a chance to examine your relationship and yourself to see whether you’re really losing your love. Dokun urges you to consider what might be motivating this shift in attitude. To give one example, she writes, “Lack of desire to see a partner could be suggestive of a personal insecurity or fear of becoming too involved.”

2. Your Relationship Isn’t Honest With You.

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It’s thrilling to be able to open up and share your deepest thoughts with another human being. After all, revealing one’s thoughts and feelings is a great approach to connect with a new acquaintance. As a result, if you were previously open and honest with your spouse but have since changed your tune, that’s a bad sign.

There is a danger in “stonewalling,” which is when a person stops interacting with the other person because they no longer want to share their thoughts and feelings with them. If you’re not making eye contact, walking away from conversations, or refusing to talk about your feelings with the person you’re seeing, it might be time to call it quits.

3. You’re Always on the Lookout for a Way to Escape Your Partner.

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In addition to no longer looking forward to spending time with your lover, you may find yourself avoiding them outright. There are several ways to avoid spending time with your partner, such as staying late at work, seeing movies or eating dinner alone, or simply taking the longer route home. 

Your feelings for your partner may have shifted or you’re not receiving what you need out of the relationship if you’re actively looking for methods to be alone. Examine why you’re avoiding your mate. Once you’ve settled on a stance, it’s time to start a real dialogue. If you believe your relationship still has possibility, talk to your partner about what you need to improve your emotional experience together.

4. You’d rather ignore disagreements than show your contempt for them.

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Although no one enjoys arguing, it is sometimes necessary to do so in order to strengthen a relationship. To keep a relationship strong, both partners must be able to express and work through their feelings of hurt and anger. If you don’t, your bad feelings will fester and eventually turn into contempt, which Dokun calls “another significant relationship killer” because it taints your interactions with your partner. 

Your contempt for your partner will progressively eat away at your relationship until it comes to a breaking point if you don’t talk about the things that irritate or anger you. This is a clear sign that you’re losing your passion for your partner.

5. You are unsure of your future with them.

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How do you feel about your relationship’s future if you’re not sure if it’s in jeopardy? Speaking up with your spouse if you’re worried about staying in a long-term relationship with them is a good idea. A therapist or a journal can help you process your feelings, adds Dokun. You can also talk to a neutral person like a friend or family member. “Simply say what you feel, and the fears you’re feeling about what this could mean for your future together,” advises a relationship counselor.

Isn’t it possible that not looking forward to a future with your spouse could be a sign that your affections for them have faded? Or is there anything else going on? You may be feeling pessimistic about the future since you haven’t had significant dialogues with your partner about their ambition. Even though it doesn’t necessarily imply you’re no longer in love, it’s a good idea to open up conversation.

6. Something or Someone Else Is Making You Desperate

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You can have a crush on someone else after being in a monogamous relationship for a long time, as long as you don’t act on it. So why not? You have to admit that you can’t help but be drawn to other people. It’s possible, however, that a simple crush can turn into an issue if it reduces your passion for your partner. As if you weren’t in a relationship, your thoughts may turn to all the things you could have done and people you could have met if only you were single.

An individual’s focus shifts from defending his or her own wants and pursuing their own interests (to the detriment of their spouse) when they fall out of love. “They begin to alter their perspective from ‘we’ back to ‘me,'” explains Dokun. You’re no longer entirely committed to your partner if you’re constantly thinking about being with other people or yearning for fresh experiences.

7. You’re Overly Self-Protectionistic.

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A hypothesis put out by Drs. John and Julie Gottman is cited by Dokun, who claims that there are four dynamics that will bring an intimate relationship to an end: criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, and disdain. Defensiveness, like stonewalling and disrespect, signals your spouse you no longer see them in a good light during dialogue. 

Defensiveness is the act of blaming your partner for everything that goes wrong in your life. As a result, it is impossible for your partner to voice their problems and communicate successfully with you if you are defensive. Defensiveness may be a sign that you lack the kind of love necessary to sustain a healthy connection with your partner.

8. Your Partner Is Constantly Criticised by You.

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Nobody, especially a romantic partner, like being criticized. It’s a sign that you’re not in love with your mate if you’re constantly criticizing each other. When they make a mistake or fail to live up to your expectations, you attack their character instead of expressing your dissatisfaction in a courteous manner. Criticism is typically a prelude to the other three horses.

You have to decide if your criticism derives from a lack of love for your partner or some other internal conflict. This is true for all of the preceding indications as well. What fears am I harboring about this person, and can I address or conquer these fears without losing out on the love of my life?

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