Feeling the urge to stray can be a natural response when life starts to feel dull, but the consequences of giving in to temptation can be devastating. That’s why it’s crucial to have a solid plan in place with effective strategies to resist temptation and stay faithful to your partner.
There are many reasons to commit to a monogamous relationship, including the security of having a partner who knows you inside and out, having someone to come home to, and, of course, having sex whenever you want it. Conversely, monogamy has been shown to dampen a person’s excitement, passion, and lust for their partner, leading to boredom and dissatisfaction.
You care deeply for your partner, though, so you won’t give up on the relationship just to get your hands on some cash. What are your next steps?
Guide to Maintaining Loyalty in a Serious Relationship
Respect your partner, treat them like your best friend, and realize that the good things in your life are not worth giving up for a night with someone else.
However, being content in a monogamous relationship isn’t always easy, especially if you’re stuck with the same sex, the same house, and the same weeknight routines. How do you avoid emotional stagnation in a relationship?
Put some heat into your bedroom relationship.
A dull sexual life can be a contributing factor to infidelity. Having sex with the same person for decades on end, no matter how spectacular your moves, can become boring after a while, especially if you’re in a monogamous relationship. Most couples experience this problem at some point.
Instead of looking elsewhere, why not experiment with your sexual life? Try something new every day in the bedroom by picking up a book of sex positions, introducing new toys, swings, bondage, scandalously discreet public petting, role-playing, or getting a monthly sex box bundle delivered to your home. These activities are not only a fun way to find out more about each other, but they also help break the ice and get people talking.
Know that boredom is a common human experience.
Don’t kid yourself into thinking that your long-term partnership is the only one to suffer from boredom. Consider that it is inevitable that you will become bored at some point. It’s silly to think that your girlfriend hasn’t looked back at you and wondered what it would be like to be somewhere else or with someone else.
Relationships are like a rollercoaster; they have their ups and downs. Your feelings for your partner don’t always remain constant, even if you’re together. Instead, it seems like love goes away for a while and then comes back stronger than ever. Remind yourself that the love and desire you once felt are just around the corner if you can make it through this brief period of boredom.
The situation is dire; you should leave.
You and your partner may be having relationship problems, and you think that getting some distance would help. It’s possible that you’re correct. You could go by yourself, but why not bring your significant other? There are good and bad things about both options.
You’ll get some much-needed alone time and mental space to reflect on how much your partner means to you, both of which will be the benefits of a solo trip. However, you shouldn’t use your vacation as an excuse to cheat on your commitments at home; rather, you should keep your goal of remembering what’s important in life in the forefront of your mind as you make travel arrangements. Seeing some strippers in Las Vegas probably won’t make you feel the same way about your significant other.
On the other hand, spending quality time with your significant other in a tranquil setting might strengthen your relationship. Or, it could be a stressful ordeal. Pick your traveling companion carefully, and don’t let the opportunity to cheat sneak up on you.
Think about the information you’re allowing into your mind.
Maybe you’ve been contemplating having an affair, and now all you want to do is watch movies, read books, and peruse websites about scandalous affairs. Not only does this give off a highly suspicious vibe, but it also makes you want to mimic your mental diet, which can lead to unhealthy levels of obsession. Don’t lose your cool, and stay away from questionable sources of information.
Define the scope of the issue.
Is there something obviously wrong in your relationship that could explain your infidelities, such as infidelity on your partner’s part or family issues? Before you can take any action, you need to identify the specific nature of your problem. While many women may assume that physical lust is the primary motivation for cheating, the book The Truth about Cheating reports that men typically cite emotional rather than strictly physical needs as the driving force behind their infidelity. So, before resorting to infidelity, it’s best to try talking things out with your partner.
Free flow of information.
After a long day, you might feel uncomfortable coming out and saying, “Hey honey, I’ve been thinking about cheating!” However, being honest about your feelings will benefit both of you in the long run. If you’ve tried everything to shake your boredom, but nothing seems to work, it might be time to bring it up with your partner as a problem you’d like to solve together. If things turn out too far apart, at least you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing you gave it your all.
Don’t paint it in rosy terms.
The media have a bad habit of glamorizing adultery. Star-crossed lovers mired in scandalous, sexy complications are a common trope in depictions of heartbreaking affairs. Keep in mind that your actions may have repercussions for others, especially if you and your partner currently have children together. Don’t gloss over the fact that relationships are rarely neat and tidy and often leave lasting emotional and physical scars.
Don’t give in to temptation.
If you or a close friend are starting to develop romantic feelings for someone of the opposite sex, it’s best not to push your luck. This may involve reducing the amount of time you spend together, sending them a strong “I’m taken!” vibe, or even blocking them from your social media accounts. Remove all potential sources of conflict from your home to give your relationship a fighting chance.
Avoid pornographic media.
Watching porn when you’re already feeling the need to have your way with another person isn’t a good idea, especially if it’s fantasy porn depicting the husband cheating with the babysitter or the hot neighbor. While you may think that pornographic entertainment will help you calm your restless legs, it actually increases the risk that you will act on your worst fantasies.
Try to see how self-centered you are if there is no major issue in the relationship, but you still want out after two years. Relationships don’t require half your attention but rather all of it. How can you hope to get anything of value out of a relationship if you aren’t willing to give everything you have to it?
It is your decision whether or not to cheat. True connection is difficult to come by, so whether you’re bored or not, it’s best to give your relationship a shot if you think you might have found something special.