Modern dating can be hard to figure out, and when it comes to sexual exclusivity, it can be even harder.
With all the relationship hang-ups being thrown around, it’s not surprising that everyone is making crazy new agreements in their relationships. You’ve heard of exclusivity in a relationship, but what about sexual exclusivity? Well, you can now find out more about this new way for lovers and friends to interact.
Most people between the ages of 20 and 45 have sex before they get married. Most people want a relationship to come out of it, but more and more people are fine without it. Because of this new way of thinking, the rules of relationships, whether they are committed or not, have changed in ways that even the smartest relationship expert can’t figure out.
How does sexual exclusivity affect different kinds of relationships?
Look at the different kinds of relationships that have grown up since the 1960s, when people were given more freedom to express their sexuality. This will help us understand the modern relationships.
#1 Friends with benefits. People who don’t want to be in a serious relationship choose this type of relationship by a wide margin. Two people agree to have sex regularly or whenever the mood strikes. These people could be friends, strangers, coworkers, classmates, etc.
#2: The affair outside of marriage. Even if you’re married or otherwise committed, this kind of relationship is usually just about getting sex from another person.
#3 The group of three. When three people of different genders get together and have sexual relations, they can agree to keep the relationship going, but they won’t think of it as anything more than an exciting sexual activity.
#4: The fallback. People in this kind of relationship will still see other people, but when they are both single, they will still have an affair. It’s almost the same as friends with benefits, but backup plans don’t plan to have sex with other people while they’re single.
#5: A one-night stand. This is probably the saddest because usually one person wants to keep seeing the other. The problem is that one-night stands are exactly what they sound like: an uncomfortable physical relationship that lasts only one night. Read: 16 ways to tell if it’s just going to be a one-night stand.
#6: Meeting someone online. People do this when they use social media or online dating apps to find someone to hook up with. It can end in a “one-night stand” or a “friends with benefits” arrangement.
#7: The nice people on dates. These two people know they’ll never be friends, have had at least one sexual encounter, but they still see each other often. They will flirt with each other and go on dates, but nothing more will come of it. As long as it works for them, they will keep seeing each other.
#8. Ex-lovers. These people think it’s a given that you’ll agree to have sex with anyone. They have a history together and know each other very well, but they no longer care about each other. It’s all good, but it does make it more likely that their feelings for each other will come back to life. The truth about having sex with a former partner
Who else knows about the weird kinds of relationships that exist? These, on the other hand, are the ones you see most often in the dating world. Almost none of these put any pressure on the people involved, but a new idea called “sexual exclusivity” is becoming more popular.
What does “sex exclusivity” mean?
If either or both of the people in any of the above relationships asks that the other person not sleep with other people while they are together, they are asking for sexual exclusivity. It’s different from the usual exclusivity agreement, in which two people agree to date each other exclusively, including sex and all the other good things about having a boyfriend or girlfriend.
To be exclusive on a regular basis takes a lot more work and emotional investment. To be sexually exclusive, both people just have to keep it in their pants when the other person isn’t around. It means that they can’t do anything intimate with anyone else, including the other people they’re seeing.
Why do people want to be with only one person?
From the outside, it seems very complicated, but there are some good things about sexual exclusivity that can make a sexual relationship better. It’s usually asked for health reasons, but it could also be because your set-up is too complicated for other people to understand.
It is less likely that you will hurt other people’s feelings. When you sleep with more than one person, it’s hard not to feel something for each of them. No one can be jealous or competitive if you only sleep with one person. As little trouble as possible will happen.
Sexual exclusivity also lets you have fun with your partner without worrying about getting a disease from them. When you have more than one partner, your health and theirs are both at risk. STDs can be avoided, but there’s no way to know for sure that you won’t get one. Even if you use a condom, you can still get skin sores or diseases like the flu that can spread to other people.
How do you ask someone to be your exclusive lover?
If you want to ask this of your lover, you should know that not everyone can do it. It’s an odd request, especially when you think about the fact that you can still see other people.
#1: You have to make rules for it. This means you have to talk about uncomfortable things like feelings, time, and the other people you’re seeing. Even though the benefits are nice, they aren’t always enough to get someone to become sexually involved with someone else.
If you and the person you’re seeing started out as casual, you can expect that they won’t be too quick to say yes to what you want. They agreed to have an affair with you because it gave them the freedom to keep doing it with other people without having to be exclusive.
#2: Asking them to be exclusive sexually is the same as asking them out on a date. They might think you want to take your relationship to the next level if they don’t understand you. So, before you ask your partner to be sexually exclusive, you should be ready to explain how this will work.
#3: Don’t forget to think about what they think. Don’t force them to do it if they don’t want to. If you really want to sleep with only one person, you’ll have to find someone who is willing to go along with your plan. If you tell them how strongly you feel about it, they might change their minds and think about the benefits as well.
Just keep in mind that being sexually exclusive can also help you get closer to the person you’re seeing. Once you’ve agreed not to sleep with anyone else, you’re more likely to fall in love with the only person you’re intimate with. Just make sure you are ready emotionally and mentally to ask your partner to do this.
It sounds like sexual exclusivity is a good way to keep your sexual life safe and healthy. It makes it less likely that you don’t have to jump through the usual hoops to meet someone new for sex.
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