More than twenty years have passed since the publication of the book Men is from Mars, Women are from Venus, which aimed at understanding differences between men and women. It was revolutionary because it was the first time anyone formally decided that men and women are different by nature, sparking conversations about how these differences shape our interactions.
Spare the women’s rights activists who spent their early twenties setting fire to their bras. Most people would agree that men and women not only speak different languages but also see the world in very different ways.
Our differences aren’t just based on how well we use space or how well we understand what people say. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that our gender differences don’t outweigh the fact that we all face similar challenges in romantic partnerships.
When you first start a long-term relationship, you never think getting along will be hard. As time goes on, you start to notice repeating patterns of behavior that can either help you or hurt you.
What Makes Men and Women Different
There are some big differences between men and women that don’t have to mean the end of your relationship if you look at them separately, understand how they affect behavior, and let your partner be his or her own person. These are the main things that are different, and if you can just accept them and learn to let go, you can live much happier and in harmony for the rest of your life.
Men can only concentrate on one thing at a time, but women can do more than one thing at once.
If you give a man more than one job, he will either start ten and never finish any of them, or he will only work on one at a time. He can’t pay attention to more than one thing at a time, so even the smallest thing that takes his attention away from his actions is enough to upset him. On the other hand, women can work on ten different things at the same time. They can easily switch from one job to another and pick up where they left off.
When a guy turns inward instead of being able to deal with multiple problems at once, it can cause problems. When he is busy with something, he can’t see what else is going on around him. Even if his kids are crying and falling apart, the house looks like it’s on fire, and his wife is at the end of her rope, he can just sit at the computer and not notice anything else.
You should know that he probably isn’t doing it on purpose. When he’s working on something else, he just can’t pay attention to everything going on around him.
Women say they love, but men show it.
When a woman loves someone, she can’t stop going on and on about it. She can’t express how much she wants to text and talk about her new crush all day. A guy is different. He won’t tell everyone when he’s in love with a woman. He will instead “do” things for her. If a guy changes your windshield washer fluid without being asked or takes out the trash without being told, that means he loves you.
Men can have trouble when a woman shows them a lot of love through words, and they can’t handle it. Men often don’t talk about how they feel because they don’t know how. If you know that a woman is hardwired to talk and a man is hardwired to protect and help the woman he loves, it will be much easier to spot the signs of love on both sides.
When it comes to sex, men tend to be much more visual than women.
Most women are very upset when they find out that their man has been watching porn on their computer. Regardless of how much a guy says he doesn’t watch it, he does. When it comes to sex, men like to see things. They need fantasies more than most women do, and seeing sexual acts turns them on.
Women care more about how a sexual act makes them feel. For them to get in the mood, they need a mix of erotica and something that makes them feel something. It’s not that women aren’t interested in porn, but they need more than just seeing it.
If you want to stop arguing about what he watches on porn, make some sex tapes of your own and send them to him. If you give him movies of you doing bad things, he will probably get just as excited as when he watches porn. If you want your woman to be in the mood, kiss her and thank her for everything she does for you. Get her feelings going.
Women care about how other people feel, but men are more worried about their hunger and basic needs.
Women spend a lot of time worrying about their kids, their husbands, their neighbors, people they read about in the paper, what their friend meant when they said something passive-aggressive the other day, and what their mother-in-law meant when she said something about their cooking, and all of this can happen in a single moment. A guy worries about what he will eat for lunch and whether or not his wife will be in a good mood so that they can have sex.
A woman has good reason to be on edge all the time. She thinks that the weight of the whole world is on her. That’s a lot of trouble to deal with. On the other hand, a guy doesn’t worry about much. He can’t look at something and think, “That will go wrong.” In fact, he doesn’t pay much attention to anything unless it’s right in front of him. This can make a woman feel like she wants to blow up at a guy for no apparent reason.
The answer is for a guy to realize that a woman can’t always handle everything the world and her brain throw at her. She seems angry all the time, especially at you, because she has nowhere else to put her anger.
Sometimes, you have to have thick skin and realize that she might need your help. As a woman, you need to know that he isn’t trying to make you upset on purpose. He has no idea about all the stupid things you are thinking. He can’t see how much worry, anxiety, and stress you’re going through all the time.
Knowing why men and women do what they do, where they differ, and trying not to give your partner’s actions meaning can help you get along much better with them.
Women can’t change how they’re made any more than men can, but if you and your partner help each other understand your needs and wants, you can live together in perfect harmony.
It’s important to recognize that these differences are not absolute and that there is a wide range of individual variation within each gender. It’s also important not to judge people based on their gender or make assumptions about them. Instead, you should treat each person as unique with their qualities and experiences.
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